Categories of Love


Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. 1 Cor 13:4—7

Characterized with a common bond and mutual feelings. May also emphasize a sexual and physical attraction, and/or a desire for a romantic, passionate connection with one another.

(Song of Songs 2:14)

…show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely.

(Prov 5 18—19)

Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.

(Song of Songs 7:6)

Oh, how beautiful you are!
How pleasing, my love, how full of delights!

(Song of Songs 7:9-10)

May your kisses be as exciting as the best wine— Yes, wine that goes down smoothly for my lover, flowinggentlyoverlipsandteeth. Iammylover’s, and he claims me as his own.


  1. How is your experience of affection (non-sexual touch included) in our relationship?
  2. What kinds of touch do you enjoy?
  3. What kinds of things do I say about you or to you that are romantic to you?
  4. What could I say more often to you?
  5. What kinds of things do I say that show you, “I get you.”
  6. What do you enjoy about our physical intimacy?
  7. Describe ways you remember us connecting (emotionally or physically) in the past, that are meaningful to you.


Characterized with sharing of life stories, experiencing life together, with acceptance, forgiveness, flexibility, and admiration/fondness.

(Ecc 4:9—10)

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

(Col 3:12-14)

Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.

(Prov 27:17)

As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another.

(Prov 17:17)

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

(1 Thes 5:11)

Therefore encourage one another and build one another up..

(Prov 27:9)

Oil and perfume make the heart glad, and the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.

(Luke 6:31)

Do to others as you would have them do to you.


  1. How do you experience my attention toward you? Do you feel that I notice you enough?
  2. How do you experience me showing interest in your stories, your stressors, and your routines?
  3. What would you like me to do more of with you?
  4. What is your experience of forgiveness or resentment from me?
  5. Will you share with me ways I make you feel accepted?
  6. If there is something you know I don’t agree with, is there some way I could show you I care foryou, even if I think differently from you on this?


Characterized with decisions to hope, trust, respect and journey together and to be dependent on God as you mutually compromise, persevere, and accept one another.

(Mark 10:6—9)

Jesus replied. “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’ ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

(Heb 12:1-2)

Therefore we also, since we are surrounded by so great a cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us, 2 looking unto Jesus, the author and finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

(Col 3:23)

Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men

(Rom 5:2-4)

And we boast in the hope of the glory of God. Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us.

(Eph 5:25-33)

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.” This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.


  1. How do you experience me understanding and supporting your dreams?
  2. How do you experience me allowing your influence?
  3. How do you experience me making attempts to compromise?
  4. How do you experience me working on changing in areas that have been problematic?
  5. How do you experience me listening to God, allowing His influence in my life, recognizing sin/what separates me from Him, and being willing to change?
  6. How can I better support your walk with the Lord?

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