Communication is often less about what is said and more about what is believed. Consider the following ideas to give more meaning and purpose to your thoughts and actions in your relationship.
Your Partner is Your Ministry
Psalm 19:14 (NIV) May these words of my mouth and this meditation of my heart be pleasing in your sight, Lord, my Rock and my Redeemer.
- Pray for your partner
- Imagine your partner’s offense against you as against God more than you and pray for God’s grace for them
- Encourage with words of acceptance and understanding
- Believe your partner is loved by the same God who loves you
- Consider and respond to the needs and desires of your partner
James 1:19 (NIV) My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry,
- Think before your speak
- Remember when your partner has been there for you and how you can return the support now
- Think about how you would like to be spoken to
- Start with “When you helped with this, it did this . . .”
- Remind yourself that yelling won’t make your complaint heard better
Accept your Partner
1 Peter 4:8 (NIV) Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.
- Think about what originally attracted you to him/her
- Remember that God gave His Son’s life for both of you, while you were still sinners
- Imagine what acceptance feels like to you
- Reject control over your partner, let go of responding for him/her
- Believe God speaks to your partner, just as He does to you
Enjoy your relationship
Proverbs 17:22 A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones.
- Recall what it was like to want a romantic relationship and consider the blessing of not being alone.
- Pay attention to what interests your partner
- Do shared activities together and pay attention to what is enjoyable
- Experience each physical touch fully
- Linger—don’t be so quick to get on to the next task
- Laugh together
Ephesians 5:31-33 (NIV) “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[a] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
- Talk about dreams and find ways to share in them together
- Describe your day highlighting your triumphs, as well as your disappointments
- Discuss you concerns and satisfactions in your relationship and/or your family
- Ask the hard questions about God and faith and search for answers together
- Be willing to hear your partner’s complaints and compliments
- Admit your wrongs and ask for forgiveness
- Be honest about your struggles and do not keep secrets
- Do not let anger or pride lead to emotional withdrawal
- Confess your sins to God, ask for help with temptation